There is an ebb and flow to everything. It is the very rhythm of Nature. And when we look closer, we see that it is God’s beautiful design. – Allu
This post is a sequel to my previous post about money.
Although the ebb of money in my experience did a good job to dampen my mood and make me question and doubt my choices and progress, I can say that the lessons I learned from the situation are very valuable for my purposes.
The experience is, in fact, what I needed to bring me closer to where I want to be.
Where do I want to be?
Where I want to be is a state of mind, or what you would call a ‘state of being’.
Here are some of the things I learned when I did not have money:
1. I learned to appreciate the little things that are usually taken for granted. I think this is the most common thing we all come to realize when something is taken away from our experience. It is said that an apple is the sweetest apple if it’s the only apple.
2. I gradually learned not to be dependent on the idea of money as the basis of my freedom, happiness, self-worth, self-confidence, and fun.
How did I practically arrive to number 2?
I learned, or was rather compelled, to develop other skills.
I activated unused assets.
I appreciated more and highlighted existing strengths and used them to get to my goal.
I discovered ways to have fun without using money currency.
Most importantly, I learned to trust (as I found myself in a situation where I have no other options – but to trust).
I noticed that the points enumerated above are simply mechanisms for adaptation. And if we adapt to changing circumstances, we evolve – a very good thing! For when we lack something, we develop another thing to help us adapt and survive in our current environment. We are pressed to explore more of our capabilities and creativity, which in turn, prod us to become more well-rounded, more integrated, and in the end, happier humans.
This reminds me of Tyrion Lannister in the Game of Thrones series. Since he is a dwarf, Tyrion cannot fight like the other knights and swordsmen to protect himself and his king or queen. His remaining option was to hone and employ his wit, humor and intellect. While some of the best swordsmen and influential characters were annihilated, Tyrion, the dwarf, survived and thrived.
We are reminded of what we often hear about, ‘count your blessings’. This is to say, not to sulk and dwell on our misfortunes or lack. Instead, we appreciate and amplify what we already have. It could be intangible things like our clarity, peacefulness, authenticity, humor, affection, social skills, etc.
3. Another difficult learning I finally came to grasp was to not let external appearances dictate or overwhelm my perception and mood. Now if we can exhibit and maintain this intention to be undisturbed – not only by the looks of our finances, but also by the sour weather, or by the acts of other people – we can say that we have succeeded in finding that coveted solid inner foundation of strength – that state of being – which is so calm yet so strong that it is unmoved, by either praise or slander, so to speak.
Obviously, easier said than done. But . . .
4. Lastly, and this goes deeper into metaphysics, is knowing that we are the creators of our reality. That each individual is Creator Source Being, and that whatever happens to you is your own manifestation (conscious or unconscious) which your ‘larger self’, together with other co-creators, has created as it serves you in one way or another.
I have since learned that life is a mind trick. All that happens to us can serve our highest good if we look at it with the right perspective.
As a Creator Source Being, I created my financial ebb to learn these things I learned.
Needless to say, these learnings are applicable to other areas in our lives as well, where we think something is missing or lacking.